The conventional wisdom is – “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”
How about – “Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.”?
I make this mistake all the time. I think I’m trying to be empathetic with the other person by trying to give them nice and fair treatment – as per my perspective.
But that other person isn’t me.
So the whole empathy thing either doesn’t work or it looks fake.
Isn’t it probably better to genuinely understand what the other person cares about?
Isn’t it probably more authentic empathy if we treat them the way THEY want to be treated?